In over My Head 힘에 벅찬 Can’t Live without – 없이 살수 없다 Feel Guilty 죄책감이 들다 (0923 파워 잉글리쉬 스크립트)
Power Dialog: Cooking for Dietary Restrictions: I’m in over My Head.
Michelle tells her friend that she feels a bit overwhelmed and sometimes goes out by herself to enjoy her favorite foods that her family can’t eat. Anton says she should reward herself like that.
Kristen:
I feel like today people are really, really back to work. I know there are people who went back to work after the Chuseok holiday, but I heard that a great number of people took two days off and have like a nine-day holiday. . So today is officially there are no more people.
Cameron:
Yes.
Kristen:
Holidays. That’s true. Until October.
Cameron:
Even if you were back Thursday and Friday, any time that there’s only like two days in the week…
Kristen:
That’s not working.
Cameron:
Everyone, if everyone’s there, it’s like, okay, guys, we know we’re not really working, right? Like, no one says it, but it’s like, we’re just going to kind of like do a little bit of work.
Kristen:
This is how it’s like. This is what it’s like in Christmas in the States.
Cameron:
Yes.
Kristen:
And New Year’s. Like no one, they come to work two days, but no one’s really working.
Cameron:
Right, so Christmas and New Years are on the same day of the week because there’s seven days apart, right? So if it’s on a month, if Christmas is on a Monday, New Year’s is on a Monday. That’s right. So, but there’s like all those extra couple days in the middle. It’s like, okay guys, we had Christmas. We’re gonna like not do anything until New Year’s, right? Like it’s kind of one of those wink-wink sort of situations. You don’t say anything.
Kristen:
Wink-wink.
Cameron:
Yes, well, all that to say, welcome back to regular work.
Kristen:
Yes. Okay, we are with you. And we’ll get you in the mood.
Cameron:
Uh-huh. Okay,
Expressions
Kristen:
Cooking for dietary restrictions is our food topic for this month. And if you have a dietary restriction, it means there are certain things you cannot eat.
Cameron:
Yes.
Kristen:
So our subtitle is interesting. I’m in over my head. Okay. I’m in over my head. I’m in over my head. What does this mean?
Cameron:
I’m in over my head means that it is too much for me. I cannot handle it. It’s too difficult. And the feeling is you jumped into the pool and the water level is above your head. And now you’re drowning. It’s too much. I can’t handle. I’m in over my head.
Kristen:
Ah, 벅차다.
Cameron:
Yeah. 벅차, 버거워.
Kristen:
Okay. If you can’t live without something…
Cameron:
It means I have to have it. I need this. It’s a dramatic way of saying I love this.
Kristen:
Remember, Mariah Carey, I can’t live…….
Cameron:
I can’t live if living is without you…..
Kristen:
And then finally, feel guilty.
Cameron:
It means, ah, I feel bad. I shouldn’t have done that. I was bad for doing that.
Kristen:
Let’s go ahead and listen to our food dialogue.
Power Dialog
Michelle: I have to admit though that sometimes I feel like I’m in over my head.
Anton: What do you do to make yourself feel better?
Michelle: I can’t live without my Pad Thai or four-cheese pizza, so I sometimes go out to eat alone and get my favorite dishes. But I feel guilty about it.
Anton: You do so much for your family. There’s nothing to feel guilty about.
Michelle: Oh, thanks for saying that.
Anton: It’s true. You’re a real hero and deserve to be rewarded.
Kristen:
Okay, our dialogue is on page 116. I think it would be a great idea to follow along in the book. Michelle says, I have to admit, though, that sometimes I feel like I’m in over my head. So, Michelle has got a family that has many dietary restrictions. One is gluten intolerant. One can’t have dairy. There are all these restrictions. And she finally is like, I have to admit, which is our power pattern. Right. When you start off a sentence, I have to admit. What are you about to say?
Cameron:
You’re about to say something that you don’t want to believe is true or maybe keep a secret technically. But it’s like ‘Man, this is the reality, this is my truth.’ right? We have discussed these few times on the show, but I have to admit in this case, it definitely means, like, ‘You know, as a mom I wanna think that I can do everything. But if I’m being truthful, I’m in over my head.’
Kristen:
That’s right. This is a mom expressing her true feelings. And it’s hard for moms to do that because we women want to be doing everything right. And so, for someone to say, you know what, this is really hard. Yeah, I have to admit it’s not easy. So then she says I’m in over my head and this is our first expression. If you are in your overhead, you said you’re like drowning.
Cameron:
Yes. And we can use the expression, I’m drowning. It means I have too much to do. I can’t handle it. I can’t manage all of the things that I need to do. So, if you’re in over your head, it can have a few different meanings. One of them can be a physical, I cannot do the things because I don’t have time. But it can also mean I don’t have the ability or I don’t have the knowledge, right? So sometimes let’s say that you’re trying to go, like you’re studying and you go to like a really advanced math class and the professor just starts putting numbers on a chalkboard that make no sense to you. The math is way too advanced. You can just say, oh, I’m in over my head. I do not understand this math.
Kristen:
Yeah, I cannot. And you feel like if you’re in over your head, it’s hard for you to really get out. Like there’s nothing you can do.
Cameron:
Right, it’s not an effort thing. It’s not like, if you just study hard, you can do it. It’s like a, this is just impossible for me.
Kristen:
It’s impossible. It’s impossible.
Cameron:
No matter how much effort I put in, I can’t do it.
Kristen:
I can’t do it. It’s just simply that. Okay. And Anton says…
Cameron:
What do you do to make yourself feel better?
Kristen:
Okay, so Michelle is like this is like oh my gosh this is too much. Michelle says I can’t live without my Pad Thai or four-cheese pizza, so I sometimes go out to eat alone and get my favorite dishes but I feel guilty about it. Okay so she says there are foods that she wants to eat.
Cameron:
Yes.
Kristen:
So like I can’t live without my Pad Thai, which is the Thai dish, noodle dish, or the cheese pizza. If you can’t live without a certain kind of food or if you just can’t live without something, what does this mean?
Cameron:
This means, I love it so much, so I can’t live without if we’re talking about food, let’s be honest, it’s dramatic. If she didn’t eat Pad Thai or if she didn’t have this four-cheese pizza, she will survive. But it’s a dramatic way of saying like I love this, oh I need this. But you could also use this for like a person I can’t live without you Kristen, you’re such an important person in my life.
Kristen:
Right. Right. Likewise. I think for you, Cameron, you probably couldn’t live without pizza because you eat pizza and love pizza so much.
Cameron:
I do. I love it. I feel like it never gets old.
Kristen:
Yeah.
Cameron:
Like in college, I think there was one time I had pizza like five days in a row for every meal. And I like had to make myself stop eating it.
Kristen:
Really?
Cameron:
Yeah it’s so good.
Kristen:
It’s just you don’t get tired of it.
Cameron:
I don’t get tired of it. I can’t live without it. So it can be used in a real literal sense. Like humans can’t live without oxygen. Humans can’t live without water. Like you can use this expression in that way, but to be dramatic and talk about something you really love or this is so important to me. You can use this expression.
Kristen:
So then what she does is that she eats alone, she goes out and eats alone, I can understand that..
Cameron:
Oh yeah. You know, when it’s really good food, I wanna eat alone. ‘Cause let’s be honest, I cannot imagine what I look like when I’m eating something.
Kristen:
I tell you, I love eating alone. I don’t want to see my family. I don’t want to cook for them. I just like to eat alone what I want to eat.
Cameron:
No talking. I need to concentrate on this flavor.
Kristen:
Now, but she feels guilty.
Cameron:
Oh, I’m sure every mother would.
Kristen:
Now, guilty is actually like 죄책감, right?
Cameron:
Yeah.
Kristen:
But isn’t that guilty-guilty? Like she’s doing something wrong?
Cameron:
So it’s not guilty maybe in the sense of the law or if you’re religious in the sense of like, oh, I sinned against God. It can be used in that way, but it’s the feeling of, ‘Oh, as a mother, I shouldn’t do this. I should love my family more and sacrifice for my family. I feel weak. I mean, I know that many mothers feel it, fathers feel it as well, but it’s that feeling of ‘Man, I should be a better person. And sometimes, maybe you should feel guilty. But other times we feel guilty when we shouldn’t.
Kristen:
Yeah.
Cameron:
Like, of course she you know she can’t always have Pad Thai, like there are family members that can’t have it but like, ‘Every once in a while.’
Kristen:
Sure, why not? Of course. And Anton, that’s what he’s saying. You do so much for your family, there’s nothing to feel guilty about.
Cameron:
Right. And then Michelle says, thanks for saying that.
Kristen:
It’s true. You’re a real hero and deserve to be rewarded. So, you deserve it.
Cameron:
Yes.
Kristen:
That’s our power vocab.
Cameron:
Right. So it means like you have worked hard and that’s kind of like your reward.
Kristen:
You deserve it.
Cameron:
Like if you didn’t do anything, if you were a lazy mom, or you were a bad mom, maybe it would be different. But like you work so hard,
Kristen:
You’re entitled.
Cameron:
You do so much for your family. You deserve it.
Kristen:
You deserve it. Okay. Let’s go ahead and listen to that dialogue one more time.
Power Dialog
Michelle: I have to admit though that sometimes I feel like I’m in over my head.
Anton: What do you do to make yourself feel better?
Michelle: I can’t live without my Pad Thai or four-cheese pizza, so I sometimes go out to eat alone and get my favorite dishes. But I feel guilty about it.
Anton: You do so much for your family. There’s nothing to feel guilty about.
Michelle: Oh, thanks for saying that.
Anton: It’s true. You’re a real hero and deserve to be rewarded.
Power Note
1. in over my head: 힘에 벅찬
Kristen:
It’s time for Power Note. We’re on pages 118 and 119. If you’re in over your head, it means that you’re unable to handle a difficult situation, no matter how hard you try. It’s like you have reached your limit. It’s almost impossible.
1)
A: Why do they demote Bob from manager back to sales associate?
B: He was in over his head as manager and everybody knew it.
Kristen:
Yeah, so to be demoted means to go or lower in position.
Cameron:
Yes, the opposite of promote.
Kristen:
That’s right. So it’s like he couldn’t handle being a manager. It was too much for him.
Cameron:
Maybe he was too young, too inexperienced. Or maybe he just doesn’t have the ability.
Kristen:
Doesn’t have the skills.
Cameron:
Yeah. Some people aren’t good leaders. Let’s be honest. And it’s not a bad thing because we put a lot of emphasis on leadership, which is important. But I think it’s also important to be a good follower. Right? And, you know, I think like some people are just really good followers.
Kristen:
I’m a good follower. I don’t really like to be a leader.
Cameron:
I don’t think I’m good at it either.
Kristen:
I really don’t honestly, I’m not good about leading and putting the team together, but when you give me a job.
Cameron:
Right.
Kristen:
I’ll do it very well.
Cameron:
So this in over one’s head, it’s where you’re in a situation where you just can’t do anything.
You want me to tell you, I’ll tell you something funny. What? So it was one time, me and this friend, we signed up for a new gym. It was like a big gym. They had like, you know, the classes like they have like. Aerobics and Zumba. Pilates. And it was like, because we signed up, we got a free ticket to go. As a joke, we went to their exercise ballet class. Two guys.
Kristen:
Ballet!
Cameron:
Exercise ballet. This will be fun, Haha! we were in over our heads most painful 30 minute experience I’ve ever had. The teacher, we were sitting on the floor, we couldn’t spread our legs out. So the teacher just like sat on top of us, trying to get our legs to split open.
Kristen:
Oh my goodness.
Cameron:
Ouch. We were in over our heads.
Kristen:
You were in over your heads
Cameron:
We were also called ‘Out of Our Depths.’
Kristen:
Yes.
Cameron:
We did not have the skills; we did not have the knowledge.
Kristen:
You did not belong there.
Cameron:
We did not. We needed to leave and get on the treadmill or something.
Kristen:
Okay,
2) if you start feeling like you’re in over your head, just ask for help.
Cameron:
Yeah, again, this would be…
Kristen:
Just leave or ask for help. Yes. Okay. Ah, that’s a great expression. Okay.
2. can’t live without : 없이 살 수 없다.
Can’t live without something means you’re just being very dramatic about how something is very important to you or that you love it.
1)
A: If you had to choose between listening to music and visiting art museums, what would you pick?
2) That’s easy. I can’t live without listening to music.
Kristen:
Yeah. Can’t live without it.
Cameron:
Yeah, a lot of people can’t. My niece, she is listening to music.
Kristen:
All the time.
Cameron:
24/7. And it’s funny because me and my sister are the same. We don’t really like music that much. Like there are times we listen to it. But like generally we like silence, most of the time. So it’s like it’s a constant mother-daughter fight.
Kristen:
Oh, that’s interesting.
Cameron:
Turn the music off! But I want to listen to music!
Kristen:
Oh, really? Oh, my gosh. Sometimes I feel like I can’t live without my smartphone. Sometimes? I think all the time. People feel like you can’t live without your smartphone. I know. Imagine if we were to ask everybody, could you live without your smartphone for a week? What do you think people would say?
Cameron:
I think now life is centered around our smartphones so much. It would be very difficult to function. I agree. I mean, I’m sure we wouldn’t literally die. But I think it would be, for example, there are buses that I ride two or three times a week. I don’t remember their number. Every time I get on the bus, I have to confirm the number with my phone. Like my map app. So if I didn’t have my phone, I would be so nervous I was getting on the wrong bus.
Kristen:
Yes, that’s right. Oh, my goodness. We are so reliant on our phones.
3. feel guilty: 죄책감이 들다
Okay to feel guilty means to feel bad about something to feel ashamed about something
1)
A: Aren’t you enjoying your vacation honey?
Yeah, but I feel guilty that we didn’t bring the kids.
Kristen:
Mom guilt is a real thing. Moms really always have guilt one way or the other.
Cameron:
Even if they’re a great mom, they just never feel they’re doing well. Again, this guilty feeling is not actual a legal thing.
Kristen:
You did something bad.
Cameron:
Right, or a religious thing.
Kristen:
Yeah.
Cameron:
But it’s just like, man, I should have done more. Or I should have done more better.
Kristen:
That’s right. That’s right.
2) I never feel guilty about things I haven’t done.
Okay. That’s a good attitude.
Cameron:
Yeah, if you don’t do it, why would you feel guilty?
Kristen:
True, true. Okay, so to feel guilty, to feel bad, to feel ashamed. Oh, I should do more.
Cameron:
I should do more.
Kristen:
Moms, don’t feel guilty. You’re doing enough.
Cameron:
It could even be really light. Let’s see. Oh, you’re supposed to be on a diet, but I hate a chocolate cake.
Kristen:
Oh, yeah.
Cameron:
I feel guilty. Yeah.
Kristen:
Don’t feel guilty. Okay,
4. I have to admit: 인정할 수 밖에 없어.
I have to admit, which means, okay, I have to really tell you the truth. Yeah.
1) I have to admit, you are a better dancer than I expected.
Cameron:
I thought you were gonna be bad. Yeah.
Kristen:
You’re good.
2) I have to admit, this music is really good.
Kristen:
Okay.
Cameron:
I thought you were not going to play good music. But it’s not bad.
5. Deserve: 을 받을 자격이 있다.
Kristen:
And our power vocab is ‘deserve.’ And I feel that we all deserve a little break.
If you deserve something, you are worthy of it or have earned it. For example, one can say they deserve a raise or a promotion for being an excellent employee.
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